Today the Virginia General Assembly voted to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment!!!!
We now have the required 38 states. This is too exciting!!
Last week I sent my ERA essay to all 140 legislators in Virginia: http://medium.com/@ekilcoyne10/thank-you-virginia-23e7c7cf078c
I received many positive responses:
And, this one:
The Virginia vote is a major step and there are many more that will prove as difficult.
Just last month, three attorneys general filed a lawsuit to prevent the ERA from becoming the 28th Amendment to the Constitution. They are all men:
Alabama Attorney General Steve Marshall
Louisiana Attorney General Jeff Landry, and
South Dakota Attorney General Jason Ravnsborg.
Interestingly, Alabama and Louisiana did not ratify the amendment and South Dakota rescinded its ratification in 1979. I guess this is their way of saying they don’t like the process outlined in the US Constitution, so they’re filing suit.
The next step is to work on eliminating the timeframe for ratification in Congress. Our divided congress must eliminate the ratification timeline that ran out in 1982. Stick with me. This could work. S.J.Res.6—A senate joint resolution removing the deadline for the ratification of the equal rights amendment was filed in January, 2019 by Sen. Benjamin Cardin, Dem, of Maryland. It was referred to the Committee on the Judiciary. There it sits.
In this divided congress, it requires a democratic majority in the Senate to get the dealine eliminated. The next step is to jump into the election process by volunteering, contributing funds and whatever it takes to elect democratic candidates.
Please let me know your ideas. You can comment by clicking the comments button below.
Happy New Year! This is pretty exciting news. My heroine's journey, "A Stone in My Pocket," was selected favorite nonfiction essay of 2019 published by L'Éphémère Review. Carrying a stranger's burdens and having a stranger carry yours for a few hundred miles gets you thinking that life is not a dress rehearsal. This has also been on my mind since I turned 70 last month.
How am I spending my time every day? Is it moving me forward? Is it moving my family and relationships forward? Is it moving the world forward? Am I learning? Am I growing?
These are the questions I asked myself on the Camino de Santiago and continue to ask. Sometimes the answer is a resounding YES, but sometimes it's NO.
When I have the courage to think about it, my thoughts inevitably come back to PURPOSE. What's my purpose now?
Over the years my adult purpose has evolved:
Be the best mom I can be.
Be the best friend I can be.
Be the best hiker I can be.
Be the best professional I can be.
Be the best partner I can be.
Now I'm looking toward my legacy. What am I leaving to my family and friends? The community? The earth?
Have I got you thinking??
A STONE IN MY POCKET, L'Éphémère Review
www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet. August 17, 2019
The next essay on The Equal Rights Amendment is coming along. I'm looking for more interviews with women and men who feel they have been discriminated against. Please email me at email@example.com.
Thanks for reading. Until next time, Elizabeth
Please leave a comment, so I know you're out there.
I received this email from a reader of A STONE IN MY POCKET, L'Éphémère Review
www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet. August 17, 2019
I just wanted to say thank you for your essay. It was a joy to stumble upon your piece and relive some of those memories this morning.
I walked the camino this past summer and have been struggling finding words. Or maybe not finding the words, as I've written so much at this point. But it's all missing the nuance. I miss the woman I was on the walk and I don't know how to incorporate her into my everyday here.
But reading that you also fell into old routines when you got home and find that it's taken time to reflect gives me solace.
Hope that you're still well and walking.
ps — the day you dated this essay was my 24th birthday. there are so many coincidences upon reading this and sitting with it has given me so much comfort. so thank you, thank you, thank you."
This is the reason I write—to share ideas and experiences with other people.
Equal Rights Amendment(ERA)
We are so close to approving the ERA. Now that Virginia has a democratic legislative majority, they can ratify the amendment as soon as January, 2020. I am going to expand my essay to include interviews with women and men who have been discriminated against and are willing to share their story. No names.
If you are willing, please email me here firstname.lastname@example.org. If you know someone who might share, please contact them and give them my email address.
Eighty percent of Americans think the ERA has already passed, or that it’s no longer necessary. My essay "Thank You, Virginia" tells why we still need the ERA. Just click Published Works above to read it.
For new people to this blog, all essays are available by clicking Published Works above.
Please share your comments about this blog or any stories.
Have a relaxing season, Elizabeth
The Provincetown Series is finished. You can read "Another Way to Travel—Part 3" here. https://medium.com/@ekilcoyne10/another-way-to-travel-part-3-d1e3e90e3aa2
The three Provincetown essays and the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) essay, “Thank you, Virginia,” are located under Published Works (next page.)
We’re close on the ERA, but we’ve been close before. Please call you Massachusetts Senators and ask them to sponsor Senate Joint Resolution 6 which removes the deadline for the ratification of the Equal Rights Amendment.
This will allow the Virginia ratification to be accepted when it passes, hopefully in January 2020. Also, please send this email to your friends in other states, so they can contact their senators. There is another hoop to get through, but let’s wait until we have all 38 states ratified.
One thing I confirmed about myself living in Provincetown for a month is, I like to slow down, and just be… It’s good for thinking and observing.
This week the Newburyport Writer’s Group had a "share your work" event. I read the punting scene on the Thames River from "Getting to Oxford." It got a great response!
My friend Pat is reading "Redemption" at her book group in December.
You’ve probably noticed that I have started publishing on Medium.com. Online writing gives access to many more people these days. Medium was launched in 2012 and it’s free for readers for a limited number of articles per month. For $5 a month you can read as many articles as you desire. There are articles on every subject from traveling, to improving your daily productivity, to understanding art. I usually start my day with a Medium story. It’s motivating!
Happy Thanksgiving, Elizabeth
If you’re interested in a story about my mom’s adventure with a rewards program, Redemption was published this week in the September Issue of Adelaide Literary Magazine. You can read it at www.adelaidemagazine.org. Redemption is the first essay listed under NONFICTION. Enjoy!
An essay about the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) is next. Who cares about the ERA? Who needs the ERA?
Florence, a friend’s mother, worked on the assembly line during World War II at General Electric. After the war, her boss called her in. “Florence, can you do a man’s job?" She said, "That's the wrong question. I'm already doing a man's job. The right question is 'Will you pay me a man's wages?'"
My own daughter recently told a prospective employer when asked her current salary, “I’m not being paid what I’m worth. Here is my salary requirement for this position.”
The ERA is about equality for sure, but it’s also about basic economics. Women continue to be underpaid even though the Equal Pay Act passed in 1963. After 5 minutes on the internet, I found three recent lawsuits regarding systemic discrimination in pay, promotion, and sexual harassment at Goldman Sachs, Wal-Mart, and Nike.
Who can resist a story like this? Please comment below if you have thoughts on this subject. I can’t wait to get started!
It’s been awhile. There is a good excuse. Memorial Day Weekend, I fell off my bike and broke my collar bone! Twelve weeks later, I am heavy into PT and the future is looking brighter. So many people have tales about collar bone breaks. Most from bike accidents. There must be a story here.
My 6 year old grandson came to visit me for two weeks in late June. He was not at all concerned that my dominant arm was in a sling, and I couldn’t drive. Between Denis, my sister Martha and my friend Pat, our adventures mostly included water in the form of lakes, the Atlantic ocean and splash pads. We even rode the bus and an Uber to round out our journey.
Yes, I’ve been writing as well. Finished the green stamp story. Titled it “Redemption.” If you want an advance copy, email me email@example.com. It will appear in the September issue of the Adelaide Literary Magazine.
My next adventure is to research the status of the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). There are many similarities to the 19th Amendment’s journey. Full ratification requires one more state. Then on to the legal battles of expired time and states that have rescinded their vote.
Some say we don’t need the ERA anymore. Tell that to the US Women’s Soccer team that won the World Cup last month. Their earnings are a few million dollars behind the men’s team that had a disappointing year. Will women’s soccer be the new champion of the ERA?
“A Stone in My Pocket” was published yesterday in L’Éphémère Review. Check it out www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet.
I’d love to hear from you. Just click comments below.
Happy reading, Elizabeth
The day has arrived. Getting to Oxford was published in the Green Briar Review (GBR: Spring Issue) and here is the link http://www.greenbriarreview.com.
This is a first for me!
Enjoy your day, Elizabeth
A friend shared a quasi-obituary with me today. James Hagerty is an obituary writer for the Wall Street Journal, and he wrote his own obit. (He's still quite alive) James is encouraging us all to write our own obit and emphasize what we want people to know about us. “What were we trying to do? Why? And how did it work out?” What influenced our journey?
It seems unnatural to write your own obit when you're still alive, but I am curious how it will read. Legacy has been interesting to me lately, so here goes. James talks about the names we are given vs. what people call us.
I was born Elizabeth Anne Kilcoyne. My most popular name was Beth. Mom called me Bethy, and those who wanted to take their life in their hands called me Liz! At age twenty-eight, I moved to Ipswich, MA and introduced myself as Elizabeth. Everyone followed suit, including mom. Now when a new person asks, “What do your friends call you?” I say, “Elizabeth." A final thought on names. I have a European passport by virtue of my grandparents being born in Ireland. So much documentation to gather for this passport. When I requested my birth certificate, looking at a microfiche copy, I said, "This is wrong. I don't have an "e" at the end of Anne." The clerk replied with some attitude, "It's an exact copy of your birth certificate." I called my mom and asked if there was an 'e' at the end of Anne. Without hesitation, she said, "Yes."
I lived a long time actually mourning no 'e.' I got my first passport when I was twenty-one, and it didn't have an 'e,' so that was my proof. At that time, birth certificates were typed on a typewriter, and the person made a mistake. Go figure.
At this rate, my obituary will be longer than my life, and I haven’t even mentioned catholic school yet, or when I gave up my virginity.
What would your story be if you could write it yourself?
Please click "comments" below and leave your thoughts today.
Happy Mother's Day!
I’m happy to report that my Camino story, A Stone in My Pocket was accepted by L’Ephémère Review for their next issue. It’s a new online review (2016) and interested in ephemeral and transitory stories/poetry. The next issue is “Dulcet” described as honey-sweet and aching, mellifluous and wonderous, music that carries you over both mountain and sea, stories that weave like a symphony through your life. I guess walking the Camino de Santiago can support that! I’ll let you know when it’s published.
Who Remembers Green Stamps? is almost ready for submittal. This week a friend told me she got her first vacuum cleaner with green stamps. Took the bus to the S&H Green Stamp Redemption Center to pick it up.
Leave your story or other commsnts below. Just click on Comments.
My next adventure is flying to Colorado Springs to collaborate on a story with my daughter, Anna, about our trip to Greece in 2015 and other compelling parts of her life.
I have been enjoying talking to my siblings about my next family story: Do You Remember S&H Green Stamps or My S&H Tea Service.
The memory can be uncertain and problematic. We’re talking about events that happened in 1963 and 1964. My two older brothers remember licking S&H Green Stamps and pasting them carefully into books, but that’s it. My younger sister remembers collecting the stamps and the tea service, but I’m the only one that remembers the Tea Party! I intend to use all their memories as an illustration of the memory conundrum, and still tell the story as I remember it. My mother will be the last to interview, which was scheduled for today, but she dislocated her shoulder in a fall yesterday, so that will have to wait.
My mom has some difficulty with words now, but she will recall the details of the events which will help my memory.
When I was at a reception recently and asked what I was writing about, I said green stamps. Two people immediately had stories. One shared that her aunt gave her books of green stamps as a wedding present and she got new towels at the redemption store.
Another told of a church that had a theme for each month. Last month it was redemption, and when one of the members was asked what redemption meant to her, she said, “When I was a little girl, I went to the S&H Redemption Store with my mother.”
My brother said, “I didn’t know you could buy redemption at a store. Are there any of those left?”
Share your stories about S&H Green Stamps.