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Thank you again, Virginia!
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Dear Readers, I hope you are finding home appealing and purposeful. I’m actually enjoying this time of my own. Check in with me in a few weeks! The Boston Sunday Globe got my attention this weekend with Jeff Jacoby’s opinion piece “The Equal Rights Amendment is Dead!” I love it when men pontificate on equal rights, women’s reproductive rights and other issues for which they have little or no personal experience. Here’s my Letter to the Editor: Regarding the Boston Sunday Globe opinion piece by Jeff Jacoby, "The Equal Rights Amendment is dead," we have one man with the help of two women deciding for all of us that the equal rights amendment has “died." Some additional info for you: Women's inequality is partially an economic issue. According to a MetLife poll in 2019, of the 43% of Americans who live paycheck-to-paycheck, 85% are women. There are many reasons for this disparity. One of the significant issues is the pay rate for a woman's first job. June 17, 2016, PRNewswire-USNewswire conducted a poll finding near-universal support for amending the United States Constitution with a proposed amendment that would expressly prohibit discrimination on the basis of sex. The amendment was supported by: 90% of men and 96% of women 97% of Democrats, 90% of Republicans, and 92% of Independents. Women Who Inspired Our Lives If you haven’t had a chance to email me about the women who inspired your life, please send it to ekilcoyne7@gmail.com. Thanks to all who have sent your inspirational women already. Stay connected. Please leave a comment so I know you're out there, Elizabeth
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ERA I am giving a presentation at the “Riveting Broads Summit” on Friday, March 13th. Why we need the Equal Rights Amendment and What we can do to Help Pass it. The ERA has been moving forward and back. Sounds familiar… The latest version of my ERA essay is at www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6641032380972888064/ “The Riveting Broads Summit creates space for women to share their stories in their own words. Crucial conversations in media, politics, and everyday life are too often about women instead of with them. We plan to change that.” Tickets are available here: https://www.facebook.com/events/lynn-museumlynnarts/riveting-broads-summit/1508530579288037/ Hope you can make it. Now for some fun! Denis and I flew to South Beach on Frontier Airline (don’t try this yourself) in January and got more than we expected. https://medium.com/@ekilcoyne10/south-beach-surprise-fca587eb5017 Thanks for reading. Leave a comment so I know you’re out there, Elizabeth Today the Virginia General Assembly voted to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment!!!! We now have the required 38 states. This is too exciting!! Last week I sent my ERA essay to all 140 legislators in Virginia: http://medium.com/@ekilcoyne10/thank-you-virginia-23e7c7cf078c I received many positive responses: Elizabeth, And, this one: Dear Elizabeth, Yikes!!
The Virginia vote is a major step and there are many more that will prove as difficult. Just last month, three attorneys general filed a lawsuit to prevent the ERA from becoming the 28th Amendment to the Constitution. They are all men: Alabama Attorney General Steve Marshall Louisiana Attorney General Jeff Landry, and South Dakota Attorney General Jason Ravnsborg. Interestingly, Alabama and Louisiana did not ratify the amendment and South Dakota rescinded its ratification in 1979. I guess this is their way of saying they don’t like the process outlined in the US Constitution, so they’re filing suit. The next step is to work on eliminating the timeframe for ratification in Congress. Our divided congress must eliminate the ratification timeline that ran out in 1982. Stick with me. This could work. S.J.Res.6—A senate joint resolution removing the deadline for the ratification of the equal rights amendment was filed in January, 2019 by Sen. Benjamin Cardin, Dem, of Maryland. It was referred to the Committee on the Judiciary. There it sits. In this divided congress, it requires a democratic majority in the Senate to get the dealine eliminated. The next step is to jump into the election process by volunteering, contributing funds and whatever it takes to elect democratic candidates. Please let me know your ideas. You can comment by clicking the comments button below. Onward, Elizabeth Happy New Year! This is pretty exciting news. My heroine's journey, "A Stone in My Pocket," was selected favorite nonfiction essay of 2019 published by L'Éphémère Review. Carrying a stranger's burdens and having a stranger carry yours for a few hundred miles gets you thinking that life is not a dress rehearsal. This has also been on my mind since I turned 70 last month.
How am I spending my time every day? Is it moving me forward? Is it moving my family and relationships forward? Is it moving the world forward? Am I learning? Am I growing? These are the questions I asked myself on the Camino de Santiago and continue to ask. Sometimes the answer is a resounding YES, but sometimes it's NO. When I have the courage to think about it, my thoughts inevitably come back to PURPOSE. What's my purpose now? Over the years my adult purpose has evolved: Be the best mom I can be. Be the best friend I can be. Be the best hiker I can be. Be the best professional I can be. Be the best partner I can be. Now I'm looking toward my legacy. What am I leaving to my family and friends? The community? The earth? Have I got you thinking?? A STONE IN MY POCKET, L'Éphémère Review www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet. August 17, 2019 The next essay on The Equal Rights Amendment is coming along. I'm looking for more interviews with women and men who feel they have been discriminated against. Please email me at ekilcoyne7@gmail.com. Thanks for reading. Until next time, Elizabeth Please leave a comment, so I know you're out there. I received this email from a reader of A STONE IN MY POCKET, L'Éphémère Review
www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet. August 17, 2019 "Hi there, I just wanted to say thank you for your essay. It was a joy to stumble upon your piece and relive some of those memories this morning. I walked the camino this past summer and have been struggling finding words. Or maybe not finding the words, as I've written so much at this point. But it's all missing the nuance. I miss the woman I was on the walk and I don't know how to incorporate her into my everyday here. But reading that you also fell into old routines when you got home and find that it's taken time to reflect gives me solace. Hope that you're still well and walking. Buen camino ps — the day you dated this essay was my 24th birthday. there are so many coincidences upon reading this and sitting with it has given me so much comfort. so thank you, thank you, thank you." This is the reason I write—to share ideas and experiences with other people. Equal Rights Amendment(ERA) We are so close to approving the ERA. Now that Virginia has a democratic legislative majority, they can ratify the amendment as soon as January, 2020. I am going to expand my essay to include interviews with women and men who have been discriminated against and are willing to share their story. No names. If you are willing, please email me here ekilcoyne7@gmail.com. If you know someone who might share, please contact them and give them my email address. Eighty percent of Americans think the ERA has already passed, or that it’s no longer necessary. My essay "Thank You, Virginia" tells why we still need the ERA. Just click Published Works above to read it. For new people to this blog, all essays are available by clicking Published Works above. Please share your comments about this blog or any stories. Have a relaxing season, Elizabeth The Provincetown Series is finished. You can read "Another Way to Travel—Part 3" here. https://medium.com/@ekilcoyne10/another-way-to-travel-part-3-d1e3e90e3aa2 The three Provincetown essays and the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) essay, “Thank you, Virginia,” are located under Published Works (next page.) We’re close on the ERA, but we’ve been close before. Please call you Massachusetts Senators and ask them to sponsor Senate Joint Resolution 6 which removes the deadline for the ratification of the Equal Rights Amendment. This will allow the Virginia ratification to be accepted when it passes, hopefully in January 2020. Also, please send this email to your friends in other states, so they can contact their senators. There is another hoop to get through, but let’s wait until we have all 38 states ratified. One thing I confirmed about myself living in Provincetown for a month is, I like to slow down, and just be… It’s good for thinking and observing. This week the Newburyport Writer’s Group had a "share your work" event. I read the punting scene on the Thames River from "Getting to Oxford." It got a great response! My friend Pat is reading "Redemption" at her book group in December. You’ve probably noticed that I have started publishing on Medium.com. Online writing gives access to many more people these days. Medium was launched in 2012 and it’s free for readers for a limited number of articles per month. For $5 a month you can read as many articles as you desire. There are articles on every subject from traveling, to improving your daily productivity, to understanding art. I usually start my day with a Medium story. It’s motivating! Happy Thanksgiving, Elizabeth If you’re interested in a story about my mom’s adventure with a rewards program, Redemption was published this week in the September Issue of Adelaide Literary Magazine. You can read it at www.adelaidemagazine.org. Redemption is the first essay listed under NONFICTION. Enjoy!
An essay about the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) is next. Who cares about the ERA? Who needs the ERA? Florence, a friend’s mother, worked on the assembly line during World War II at General Electric. After the war, her boss called her in. “Florence, can you do a man’s job?" She said, "That's the wrong question. I'm already doing a man's job. The right question is 'Will you pay me a man's wages?'" My own daughter recently told a prospective employer when asked her current salary, “I’m not being paid what I’m worth. Here is my salary requirement for this position.” The ERA is about equality for sure, but it’s also about basic economics. Women continue to be underpaid even though the Equal Pay Act passed in 1963. After 5 minutes on the internet, I found three recent lawsuits regarding systemic discrimination in pay, promotion, and sexual harassment at Goldman Sachs, Wal-Mart, and Nike. Who can resist a story like this? Please comment below if you have thoughts on this subject. I can’t wait to get started! It’s been awhile. There is a good excuse. Memorial Day Weekend, I fell off my bike and broke my collar bone! Twelve weeks later, I am heavy into PT and the future is looking brighter. So many people have tales about collar bone breaks. Most from bike accidents. There must be a story here. My 6 year old grandson came to visit me for two weeks in late June. He was not at all concerned that my dominant arm was in a sling, and I couldn’t drive. Between Denis, my sister Martha and my friend Pat, our adventures mostly included water in the form of lakes, the Atlantic ocean and splash pads. We even rode the bus and an Uber to round out our journey. Yes, I’ve been writing as well. Finished the green stamp story. Titled it “Redemption.” If you want an advance copy, email me ekilcoyne7@gmail.com. It will appear in the September issue of the Adelaide Literary Magazine. My next adventure is to research the status of the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). There are many similarities to the 19th Amendment’s journey. Full ratification requires one more state. Then on to the legal battles of expired time and states that have rescinded their vote. Some say we don’t need the ERA anymore. Tell that to the US Women’s Soccer team that won the World Cup last month. Their earnings are a few million dollars behind the men’s team that had a disappointing year. Will women’s soccer be the new champion of the ERA? “A Stone in My Pocket” was published yesterday in L’Éphémère Review. Check it out www.ephemerereview.com/dulcet. I’d love to hear from you. Just click comments below. Happy reading, Elizabeth The day has arrived. Getting to Oxford was published in the Green Briar Review (GBR: Spring Issue) and here is the link http://www.greenbriarreview.com. This is a first for me! Enjoy your day, Elizabeth A friend shared a quasi-obituary with me today. James Hagerty is an obituary writer for the Wall Street Journal, and he wrote his own obit. (He's still quite alive) James is encouraging us all to write our own obit and emphasize what we want people to know about us. “What were we trying to do? Why? And how did it work out?” What influenced our journey?
It seems unnatural to write your own obit when you're still alive, but I am curious how it will read. Legacy has been interesting to me lately, so here goes. James talks about the names we are given vs. what people call us. I was born Elizabeth Anne Kilcoyne. My most popular name was Beth. Mom called me Bethy, and those who wanted to take their life in their hands called me Liz! At age twenty-eight, I moved to Ipswich, MA and introduced myself as Elizabeth. Everyone followed suit, including mom. Now when a new person asks, “What do your friends call you?” I say, “Elizabeth." A final thought on names. I have a European passport by virtue of my grandparents being born in Ireland. So much documentation to gather for this passport. When I requested my birth certificate, looking at a microfiche copy, I said, "This is wrong. I don't have an "e" at the end of Anne." The clerk replied with some attitude, "It's an exact copy of your birth certificate." I called my mom and asked if there was an 'e' at the end of Anne. Without hesitation, she said, "Yes." I lived a long time actually mourning no 'e.' I got my first passport when I was twenty-one, and it didn't have an 'e,' so that was my proof. At that time, birth certificates were typed on a typewriter, and the person made a mistake. Go figure. At this rate, my obituary will be longer than my life, and I haven’t even mentioned catholic school yet, or when I gave up my virginity. What would your story be if you could write it yourself? Please click "comments" below and leave your thoughts today. Happy Mother's Day! |
